Perspective: Processing a Pandemic

  1. I lost so much income (and what does that say about me as a professional?) becomes→ I started a business and was able to make living wage. The ability to flip the script on what constitutes success provides meaningful perspective in a year like 2020. Moving forward with this perspective top of mind — instead of perpetuating a victim mentality against inherent worth or self efficacy — will help to channel humility and empathy for others who experience hardship in the future. We can forge new metrics by which we define our livelihoods, while understanding just how powerful external circumstances are on one’s ability to pivot in the first place. I was luckier than many.
  2. I lost so much timebecomes→ I learned critical skills and was reminded of many intrinsic values that I will apply to my future path. Life is not a race. Timing is powerful; timestamps are arbitrary. A year is both an eternity and no time at all. As much as we wished we could have skipped over 2020, nonetheless if we are fortunate enough to have lived through it, we are also able to learn from it. We are not “behind” — life will always throw curveballs (though let’s hope not another global pandemic of this magnitude).
  3. I lost so much independence becomes→ My closest relationships were deeply nurtured though tested, and I was able to find solace through interdependency and reliance on community (even via new norms). If I’ve learned one thing from 2020, it’s that hyper-independence is so last decade (for the record, I’m living at home with my parents). We as humans are social beings, and we also rely on care and support from others. Failures to meet the needs of those most vulnerable on a systemic level this past year only further reinforced the importance of mutual aid on a personal and local level. Feed your communities, as they will uplift you when trials once again come knocking.

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Marissa Fellows

Marissa Fellows

Civically engaged. Community curator. Hopeless romantic and hard-fought optimist. Food & feminism. Art reflects life. Recovering workaholic. Feel all the feels.